Apr 2, 2011

Types of Lesbians

[[ MYTH: All lesbians are the same. ]]

I hope no one out there actually thought that all lesbians are the same, because oh how wrong you would be. Think about it... We're women who date other women. How could you ever expect things to be simple?

Now, let's dive right in here. Keep in mind that these are all very general and there are still many variations of the types I have listed here, but I'm trying to keep you from getting completely lost right off the bat. There will be plenty of time for me to get into the little off-shoots of each of these types. You may fit well into one of these types, you may fit well into a few of these types, or you may not fit into any of them. That's all well and good, I promise. Every single person is different, and every single lesbian is different as well. Here we go.

BUTCH

Butch lesbians are lesbians who sport mainly "masculine" characteristics. A butch lesbian has short hair, baggy clothes, no makeup and an overall low-maintenance appearance. Most people think of images like the one above when they think of lesbians. Butch lesbians are often very sporty and enjoy team sports such as football, baseball, softball and soccer.

SOFT-BUTCH/CHAPSTICK
Soft-butch or chapstick lesbians are lesbians who still show "feminine" characteristics but dress in a much more androgynous style. Their hair is often short to medium length and messy. They may wear makeup but generally very little and they are seen most often in jeans and a t-shirt. A soft-butch or chapstick lesbian's idea of dressing up is generally a button-up collared shirt and a loose tie.

FEMME/LIPSTICK
Femme or lipstick lesbians are lesbians who simply ooze "feminine" characteristics and style. They like makeup, jewelry, pretty dresses and shoes. Femme or lipstick lesbians usually have medium to long hair and are often the more high-maintenance types of lesbians. They dislike getting dirty or going out in public without getting ready.



BOI
A boi is a type of lesbian who acts and dresses in a "masculine" fashion, throwing most - if not all - "feminine" characteristics out the door. Boi lesbians are the ones that, when you see them on the street, you often turn to a friend and whisper, "Is that a girl or a boy?" The correct answer to that question: "It's a boi."

POWER DYKE/SUIT
A power dyke or suit lesbian is a lesbian in a position of power. They are often wearing dress suits or women's pant suits and are generally very dominant and a no-nonsense type of woman. Their hair may be long, medium or short but is always very clean and professional; as is the rest of their appearance.

DIESEL DYKE
A diesel dyke is a lesbian who is often heavy-set and very "masculine" in personality and appearance. Many members of the Dykes On Bikes section of any gay pride parade are diesel dykes. They generally hold jobs such as truck driver, bus driver, mechanic, etc.

SPORT DYKE
A sport dyke is a lesbian who plays sports but is still rather "feminine." Their hair is often a long or medium length and is styled in a way that keeps it out of their face. The sports that a sport dyke usually plays are non-team sports such as tennis and track. Their style is often a low maintenance one but do not assume that they are low maintenance people; they are not. A sport dyke is usually militant about staying fit, monitoring their diet and exercising on a regular basis.


INCOGNITO LESBIAN
An incognito lesbian is a lesbian that you absolutely do not believe is actually a lesbian until... Well, until she proves it. (Example: Portia De Rossi - pictured above) Even when an incognito lesbian has a really gay backdrop, such as being at a gay bar or a gay pride event, you still assume that she is a straight girl who was dragged there by her gay friends because she just does not look gay. The difference between an incognito and a lipstick lesbian is that you can still tell that a lipstick is gay when you look at her.

BABY DYKE
A baby dyke is a lesbian that is young and/or has just come out of the closet. Baby dykes are usually a mod-podge of many different previously listed types of lesbian as they are just beginning to explore their lesbian selves. They can be spotted by the amount of gay pride paraphernalia they are wearing, which is generally an excessive amount.

L.U.G. - LESBIAN UNTIL GRADUATION
A L.U.G. (Lesbian Until Graduation) is a woman who expresses great interest in women while in college but then ends up marrying a man once out of college. L.U.G.s are often feminists in college as well and may or may not grow out of it after college.

BIEBIAN
A Biebian is a lesbian who looks like Justin Bieber.

KRISBIAN

A Krisbian is a woman who is only gay for Kristen Stewart and is otherwise straight.


HASBIAN
A hasbian is a woman who was once a lesbian but now expresses interest in men. This could be a switch from lesbian to straight or from lesbian to bisexual. It can be safely assumed that a hasbian was never really a lesbian at all. Bisexual maybe, but not a lesbian.

GOLD STAR
A gold star lesbian is a lesbian who has never been with a man.

LONE STAR
A lone star lesbian is a lesbian who has only been with one woman and no men.

STONE BUTCH
A stone butch lesbian is a lesbian who only gives sexual pleasure and does not allow her partner to reciprocate.

PILLOW QUEEN
A pillow queen lesbian is a lesbian who only receives sexual pleasure and does not reciprocate for her partner.

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There you have it. A nice, neat little guide to the basic types of lesbians. Of course not all lesbians will fit neatly in only one of these types. Each of us is different and many of us are a mixture of two or more of these types, but if you were to try lumping all of us into categories, these would be the basic ones to use.

Where do you fit?

26 comments:

  1. i dont even know. there was like 3 categories i could have fit in too. LOL.

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  2. i wasn't aware of the chapstick classification. i love that! i cracked up at the pic of portia under "incognito." i still marvel at her lesbianinity. heh.

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  3. I would argue that chapstick is I a femme that isn't ultra femme, but doesn't quite fit into butch either....Just because I consider myself a chapstick lesbian xD

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  4. i fit in every single scentence of the baby dyke description... srsly...

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  5. Well I'm probably a lipstick lesbian although strangers may see me as incognito due to the girlyness (you know because of that stereotype that all lesbians are butch...)and the girl i'm in love with is a chapstick. I think chapstick is the kind I'm most attracted to!

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    1. Sorry I'm new and still on the process of understanding myself better, but is there really a girly girl who likes Chapstick? Sorry to sound stereotypical but isn't lipstick lesbian really just a straight girl who has a relationship with a lesbian? Because if a girl desires a girl, then she has in her some qualities of a boy/way of thinking,acting/behavior or mannerism of a boy, which translates itself physically on how they present themselves, from Chapstick to Butch depending on how weak or strong their male characteristics are.. Because girly girl or lipstick or incognito who seems to be really feminine or straight , maybe they are really straight who happens to have a relationship with a woman because of certain circumstances? Because if we fall for a woman or has sexual desires for a woman, then there has got to be a male characteristic in our DNA which shows, if lipstick lesbian or incognito seems really feminine that they seem to be like straight women, then maybe they are really straight in the first place? Because Katy Perry is definitely not a lesbian, she just made a song about a girl who liked the feeling of kissing a girl. Is there really such thing as a seemingly straight girl who falls for a girl? Sorry to ask I don't mean this to be offensive or anything, it would just really help me personally , I'm still having a hard time understanding myself, all I know is I am one of u.

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    2. honestly man you sound like you're overthinking it WAY too much... be who you are, find that... feel attractive about yourself.. sleep with people you feel like sleeping with. it's really that simple. I guess I would be "chapstick" because my hair is short.. but I don't try to emulate men at all... there's a reason I'm not attracted to men so why would I try and be one. haha that being said I love surfing and video games and cartoons although I always cry like a baby in the cartoons... honestly but who really cares about it. I'm just happy I've been able to sleep with some really beautiful women.. even if they went on to be straight. none of my business!

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  6. I am a boi/bieberan/butch! and apparently those are the ones i am into! :D

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  7. I justified myself as chapstick..thx for the info.

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  8. Im a Lipstick/Femme lesbian i love wearing makeup/going shopping/looking pretty. I cant go outside without wearing makeup and looking fashionable. I'm also a Pillow Queen

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  9. Sorry I'm new and still on the process of understanding myself better, but is there really a girly girl who likes Chapstick? Sorry to sound stereotypical but isn't lipstick lesbian really just a straight girl who has a relationship with a lesbian? Because if a girl desires a girl, then she has in her some qualities of a boy/way of thinking,acting/behavior or mannerism of a boy, which translates itself physically on how they present themselves, from Chapstick to Butch depending on how weak or strong their male characteristics are.. Because girly girl or lipstick or incognito who seems to be really feminine or straight , maybe they are really straight who happens to have a relationship with a woman because of certain circumstances? Because if we fall for a woman or has sexual desires for a woman, then there has got to be a male characteristic in our DNA which shows, if lipstick lesbian or incognito seems really feminine that they seem to be like straight women, then maybe they are really straight in the first place? Because Katy Perry is definitely not a lesbian, she just made a song about a girl who liked the feeling of kissing a girl. Is there really such thing as a seemingly straight girl who falls for a girl? Sorry to ask I don't mean this to be offensive or anything, it would just really help me personally , I'm still having a hard time understanding myself, all I know is I am one of u.

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    1. I can see where you're coming from with deciphering a lipstick/femme from a 'curious tourist' - there's certainly lots of room for confusion there! BUT...I think there's a problem with your starting position that there has to be something innately 'male' about us to love women in the first place. I love being a woman and I love other women. Nothing male in that equation. I like a woman to look like a woman and think like a woman and that comes in many shapes and sizes and even when I am attracted to a woman at the butch end of the spectrum, it is the woman-ness of her that is a good fit for me.

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  10. im butch, boi and gold star/ lone star

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  11. mmm I don't know how I would describe myself but I'm just a girl who wears make up dresses with pants and t shirts, has long hair and is sweet. lol but still find girls pretty.. I have never been with a women before though

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  12. I'm an incognito lesbian xD. Well, except if I'm in a LGBT event...everybody knows where I'm looking at. And it really offends me that other lesbians doubt my sexuality because of my appearance. I've ONLY felt attraction for females my entire life. And I like very feminine ladies too...oh and I'm a gold/lone star :-P

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  13. This is stupid !
    but the BIEBIAN 'lesbian'' was funny !

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  14. There's one name not listed for lesbians like me; LLL - Late-in-Life Lesbian

    A female who was once in a heterosexual marriage with no thoughts or prior interests in fems, then in her late 30s and 23 years of marriage can only see herself with a female.

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  15. I am still trying to figure myself out, as I am very different. I wear short hair, but occasionally have had long hair. I dress fem, but not too dressy. I like to wear skirts at times, but never dresses. I mostly wear shorts or jeans with fem t's or cute blouses. But my personality is slight fem, but mostly masculine and I am very aggressive. My last lover was a long time ago, and I Identified as Fem, she was stud, or butch. But right after that relationship I became more butch. I am more attracted to fems. I would say soft butch, but I like wearing girl patterns and wear make up on occasion.

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  16. I agree that lesbians come in all shapes, sizes and personalities just like men and women of other orientations do, this is what perhaps makes lesbianism interesting as well. I have a lesbian friend who joined this 100% free lesbian dating site - MeetOutside.com , she showed me some profiles and I was quite amazed in the variety of the members that I saw. That's made me realize this same facts discussed in the article.

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  17. I identify myself as a guy is bored at home and found my way into this fascinating blog about the different type of lesbians.

    I hope no one minds my presence, just pretend im not here and go about your daily business. I just like to observe...

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