Being a lesbian means that you are a women who engages in sexual and romantic relationships with other women but do not engage in these relationships with men. Basically a lesbian is a woman who likes lady parts instead of man parts.
Isn't being gay a choice?
Tell me, when did you choose to be attracted to the opposite sex? If you can't answer that question, what makes you think anyone in the LGBT community can? No, being gay is not a choice. If it was then I can't imagine why anyone would want to choose it, what with all the ridicule and discrimination we are still going through even to this day.
How do two women have sex?
There isn't really much of a polite answer for this question. We use our hands, our mouths and toys. I won't get into any more details than that. I do, however, have a question for you breeders out there: Is your sex really so unimaginative that you can't imagine anyone having sex without a penis involved? I generally feel sorry for the sex lives of those that ask this question.
Do lesbians have to worry about safe sex?
Of course. No sex is totally safe, nor is anything else that we - as human beings - do on a day-to-day basis, but I will say that lesbians have a lot less to worry about. There's no accidental pregnancies and the STDs that we have to worry about are fewer. That being said, there are still STDs we have to worry about and things like dental dams and rubber gloves are available to protect us. I don't know many lesbians who use these for much other than comedic effect, but these same ladies are still careful with sex. Keep clean fingernails, wash your hands frequently and know the person you're having sex with. Lesbians are not immune to STDs, so if you're STD-free and want to keep it that way, it's worth asking the awkward questions to find out the sexual health of your partner, even if it's just a one night hookup.
Can I watch? / Want to have a threesome?
Woah, woah, woah... NO. Seriously, stop asking.
Who's the man in the relationship?
The point of a lesbian relationship is to NOT have a man in the relationship. We are both women and do not conform to gender roles or gender stereotypes and neither should the rest of the population - gay or straight. Women do not need to be stay-at-home moms chained to the kitchen and men do not need to be full-time workers and responsible for anything/everything involving tools. Not every relationship needs someone to "be the man" and someone to "be the woman."
Don't you ever want to have kids?
Some of us do and some of us don't, but we still have the parts to make babies. When someone asks me this question, I feel as though they think there's no way to have kids except with straight sex. The only real difference when it comes to having kids that there is between lesbian couples and straight couples is that us lesbians are required to plan having children. No "Oops..." babies for us.How do you know you just haven't found the right man yet?
This question is asked 98% of the time by men. This is how I answer it: "How do you know you just haven't found the right man yet? You could be gay. How do you know if you've never had sex with another man?" Another variation of this question is: "If you've never had sex with a man, how do you know you wouldn't like it?"Why do you guys use dildos?
Just because lesbians don't like having sex with men, doesn't mean that we all hate penetration.
What's with the short hair-cuts?
You're thinking specifically of the butchier side of the lesbian spectrum and assuming that the majority of lesbians have short hair. This is just plain false. In fact, now days it's getting harder and harder to spot a butchier lesbian simply based on her haircut because short hair is in style right now. There are many straight women with short haircuts and many lesbians with long hair. My short hair is not a result of me being a lesbian, but rather my desire for a specific look as well as a low-maintenance style. I think that applies to everyone; gay, straight, male, or female.
What's with the flannel shirts?
My les-b-friend, after being asked this question, immediately said, "Because it gets cold! Flannel is warm!" Honestly, I don't know where the link between lesbians and flannel came from, but I think the association between flannel and lesbians is more just the image that pops into someone's head when they hear the word "lesbian." I really don't know that many lesbians who wear flannel, and those that do generally only have one flannel shirt specifically just to say that they have one.
Were you, like, molested or something as a kid?
The belief that every lesbian was once a straight girl who was somehow sexually abused by a man and then "went gay" as a response to that traumatic event is just plain screwed up. Women who are straight and have been sexually abused are offended by this belief and lesbians who have not been sexually abused are offended by this belief. Asking this question implies that you believe that being gay is a conscious choice. Please refer to the second question on this page.
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